Shawn & Brian were married at the Coachman's' Lodge in Bellingham, MA in a simple but eloquent wedding ceremony.  When we met, Shawn and Brian spoke about their lives both before and after they had met.  Separately and together they have weathered many storms and their ceremony was focused on the themes of friendship, laughter and a deep trust they have cultivated that no matter what occurred in their lives, they could rely upon each others support and love in both good and difficult times. 

The highlights of their ceremony included a personal reflection about their relationship and life together.  This naturally flowed into a carefully selected reading and then the exchange of vows, which Shawn & Brian crafted together to be meaningful as well as fun.  Their wedding ceremony was just what they wanted and uniquely them!

Today, Shawn and Brian are expecting their first child - a son! Congratulations to you both and I look forward to being part of your life as you begin your family.

Today is Thanksgiving, and for many of us, we have the fortune of being with friends or family, and for this we are truly blessed.  So today, for just a moment, stop and reflect upon an act of kindness, an unselfish moment that one of these people gave to you from their heart.  Share with them the impact this had on you and stop to notice how these heart connected moments turn the ordinary into the extraordinary! 

Today's entry has a different focus; for it speaks to the difficult journey many have and the extraordinary courage it can take to simply survive.  Those who find themselves alone on this Thanksgiving day, by virtue of distance, illness, homelessness or other life circumstances.   Life isn't always safe or warm for many.  So today, I ask you to take two actions:
1) Take a few minutes, either alone or with family, to hold a prayer or intention, that those that are suffering will find a moment-or moments, of grace, healing and peace. 
2) That we take the opportunity to serve; whether it be by dropping a donation at the food bank, volunteering at a hospital or shelter, offering a homeless person a blanket or a hot cup of coffee, or going on-line to your favorite charity and submitting a donation in honor of the courage it may take to continue to live in our world.   

May all beings have happiness and cause of happiness
May all beings be free of suffering and cause of suffering.
May all beings remain in equinimity.

Peace and Blessings to you all.

I had the great privilege of marrying Becky and Susan in my garden alcove in the Spring of 2008.  They are a lovely couple, who, wanting to start a family began their planning quickly after their wedding day.  For same-sex couples having a child can be a long process, but for Becky and Susan, they were fortunate that pregnancy occurred quickly and in June of 2010 Ethan was born! 


We began planning for a blessing and welcoming ceremony three months before his birth.  Less, than one month after he arrived; his family, friends and I came together; pledging to honor, love and support him as he grows into his own unique being.   We incorporated a modern day baptism to bless and dedicate Ethan to serve in this life as God and Spirit intends for him.  The day couldn't have been more spectacular! 


Since this day, I have learned that Becky, Susan and Ethan are moving back to their native state to raise Ethan.   While I will miss knowing they are close by I have promised to visit when I can.   Congratulations Ethan, Becky and Susan-may your lives be continually blessed with love, health and great happiness!

On October 1, 1997 Bob Curley's life would be shattered.  On this day, Bob's son Jeffrey was abducted and brutally murdered in a case that would shock and traumatize a family, a community and re-kindle a renewed effort to reinstate the death penalty in Massachusetts.  Bob became an outspoken advocate and lobbyist, committing himself to having death penalty legislation passed as he struggled to understand his son's murder and to deal with his own rage, pain and suffering.

This is not a story of support or opposition of the death penalty.  It is a recognition of the extraordinary journey that Bob Curley embarked upon as he searched his heart for his own personal reconciliation while trying to move through his rage and the range of emotions he and his family were feeling.

Bob's search into his heart and soul and his questioning of the rightfulness of the death penalty he was advocating, began after an interaction with Bud Welch.  Bud's daughter was killed in the Oklahoma City bombing and while he also had his own share of grief and anger, opposed the execution of the bomber, Timothy McVeigh.  This encounter had a profound impact on Bob, who gradually over time, would question all that he held as true, fair and "just" and shift his position to opposing capital punishment. 

I had the privilege of hearing Bob speak briefly this past weekend, and I was struck by Bob's capacity; in all his suffering, and anger; to have the courage to take such an extraordinary journey. 

Bob's journey began with a horrible and violent act that many of us will gratefully never experience.  What we can take away from Bob's story is the inspiration to question that which we believe is right or true, what we believe is fair or just, our "shoulds" in our lives.  I think about the shifts in my own life, when I have had the courage to question my own beliefs and comfort zones.  It is during these times of questioning that I have had my greatest growth and healing of my heart.

If you are interested in learning more about Bob's journey, Brian MacQuarrie has chronicled his story in a book called "The Ride". 

I remember the first time I spoke with Sarah, she was sitting by her Mom's bedside, companioning her in her final days.  She reached out to me to discuss the possibility of creating a special memorial followed by a graveside burial that would truly celebrate and honor her mom's life.  Dorothy, was to pass the following week and in the days after her death, I met with Sarah and her husband Brad, and reached out to her other children and family to listen to their stories and to learn how Dorothy touched and changed each of their lives. 

Incorporating music, prayers, poetry, psalms and personal writings, Dorothy's memorial service and graveside burial honored the truth of her life and the relationships she had with her family and friends.  We acknowledged her great courage as she gracefully met the challenges of her life.  We spent time speaking about her dedication to her 9 children (yes I said 9!), and the strength of character she possessed as a single mom, who worked full time.  We honored the gifts she passed onto her children, family, friends and co-workers and her passion for crafts, gardening and travel to Hawaii.   As a Mom, Grandmother, Great Grandmother, Sister, Aunt and friend, Dorothy has left a legacy of love, generosity of heart, courage, strength of character and indomitable spirit that lives on in those that remain. 

Her funeral was indeed a tribute and celebration of her life and it was truly an honor to create and officiate at this heartfelt ceremony.

Last weekend, my husband and I attended a small gathering of a local Amnesty International Group.  While we were expecting to meet interesting people and to learn more about the local group,  I was not expecting my heart to be touched so deeply, nor to be inspired to act. 

During this meeting I listened to a woman speak about her experience as a political prisoner in Burma serving what was suppose to be quite a long sentence.  (As there is reason for her to maintain a low profile, her name and other identifying info will be omitted).  As a prisoner, her only outside contact was with her parents who were able to visit her for 15 minutes each month.    She had no access to news or any information regarding the world, her community, or the efforts by Amnesty and another organization to free her.   

Over several visits with her parents she learned about the efforts of individuals, from different countries and backgrounds who banned together to try and win her release.  After her birthday one year, her parents told her that hundreds of people came together to celebrate her birthday, life and honor her work.    This was quite astonishing to her, that people actually traveled from around the world to attend a birthday party for her!  After many years, all the efforts payed off, and she was released.

When asked what kept her going all those years, she said that it was knowing that ordinary people; people she had never met; cared about her and took the time to write letters, make calls and celebrate her life.  That in the solitary confinement of the prison, she felt in her heart that her life mattered and it provided her with strength to keep herself alive.

Ordinary people, taking moments or an hour of their time to respond to a crisis, or to provide humanitarian support may feel like a "drop in the bucket" in the moment, but the cumulative response and what gets set in motion, has a rippling effect we may never comprehend.  For this particular prisoner, it provided her with hope and meaning, that regardless of the outcome, her life was important and her spirit could not be imprisoned.

It is not in my nature to "join" a group, or even a cause.  I usually keep to the edges of any efforts, providing support in a nondescript manner.  This weekend caused me to question my comfort zone.  As a result, I decided to  step-up and join this local group, because I now believe that any small effort, combined with many people, can have an extraordinary impact.

A secondary note:  this happens to be the 8th story, which in and of itself represents the infinity symbol pictures here (an eight turned on it's side).  Our lives may be finite, but the impact of every action, thought and deed is infinite.

Laura and Peter were married at the Nashoba Valley Winery in Bolton, Massachusetts.  While they live in Washington State, it did not prevent us from getting to know each other and co-creating a wedding ceremony that incorporated their passion for nature, working with their hands, having fun, and a heartfelt acknowledgment of their family & friends.

Princess patiently waits as the processional begins

While we laughed and tossed around several ideas to incorporate into the ceremony, it was important to Laura and Peter that Princess have an active role.  And active it was, for Princess was their ring bearer! 




Princess brings the rings to Laura and Peter as we prepare for their vows.  She remained with Peter and Laura right up to the Kiss and the recessional!






From the moment we began to work together, Laura, Peter & I had a connection that has deepened into a true friendship.  I am honored to be part of their lives and to have been the person that married them.

I am a cat lover.  I have three who have been my companions for over 10 years, and to say I am attached to them is an understatement.  Rufina, my youngest of the three, was diagnosed 4 years ago with cancer.  We were able to remove her spleen and the prognosis was great.  About 8 months ago, she became sick again and while we have been able to relieve many of her symptoms, her time with us is limited.  I have been struggling with this because quite frankly, she doesn't look or act sick, and unlike any of the other cats I have had, who gave me no reason to doubt that the right thing to do was to allow them a peaceful passage, Rufina is tearing at my heart.  Last week, I called for an emergency appointment and as my veterinarian was not at the clinic, I saw Dr. Jan. 

Dr. Jan spent a great deal of time with us, but what I am most grateful for, is her presence and compassionate honesty.  She was never distracted, looked me in the eye and shared in my grief.  In the 1/2 hour I spent with her, her presence allowed me to move from distress and anxiety to acceptance of the inevitable and the confidence that I would be able to know when the time was right to let Rufina go.  It is never easy being the bearer of difficult news.  Yet in this moment, Dr. Jan's gift to me was her extraordinary ability to meet me in my pain without trying to fix me or make me feel better. 

Our lives are filled with difficult moments, and the ability to meet someone exactly where they are, without judgment or attempting to "make it better", allows us to heal and move through our lives with a bit more ease and hope, even in the difficult times.  Thank-you Dr. Jan for the blessings of your presence and compassion.  Today, Rufina is having a good day!

Jennifer and Ryan wanted to celebrate, bless, dedicate and honor their son Hunter who was turning 1 year old.  While they both have strong spiritual beliefs, they do not belong to any specific church and so began the search for a minister who could honor their individual perspectives and help to create a ceremony that would be joyous, warm and honor Hunter's unique role in the world and his relationship to Spirit.  From the moment that Jennifer spoke with me it was clear that there was a connection between us and so we began to co-create their very special celebration and blessing ceremony.

Hunter's grandparents, godparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and friends all gathered to share a special day with them and also to accept their own role in Hunter's life.  The Baby Blessing Ceremony opened with a lovely Unity Candle Ritual (above) in which Jennifer & Ryan honored their own connection with spirit, their commitment to love, nurture and support Hunter and the divine light that is in us all.

The ceremony continued with the community, grandparents and godparents (left) joyously accepting their special roles in Hunter's life. 

A final ritual was incorporated in which water was used to dedicate Hunter's head, heart, hands and body to serve in his own unique way as God intends. 

Jennifer, Ryan and the community that gathered all agreed that this was indeed a special day filled with warmth, joy, and spirit.  Thank you Jennifer & Ryan for allowing me to be such an important part in welcoming your son.  I look forward to more wonderful celebrations with you!